gaslighting

What is gaslighting and what is the evidence of gaslighting that I need? Gaslighting is the action of tricking or controlling someone by making them believe things that are not…

Are you involved with a narcissist?

George Hibbert

narcissistic, Borderline Personality Disorder, coercive control, domestic abuse, evidence, gaslighting, gather evidence, narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, parental alienation

Narcissists can seem very charming Narcissists can often be very charismatic, charming and good company, at least to start with. They like to create a flattering image of themselves because…

I’m suspicious of someone. What should I do?

George Hibbert

Keeping records, cyberstalking, evidence, false allegations, gaslighting, gather evidence, parental alienation

If you’re suspicious of someone, you need to test your suspicions Feeling something isn’t quite ‘right’ but you can’t figure it out? Know something’s wrong but you need some evidence?…

Gather evidence to prove or dispel your suspicions

George Hibbert

evidence, gaslighting, gather evidence, Keeping records, Uncategorised

Maybe you thought you were in a stable relationship but then something happened to make you feel suspicious. Maybe your child has started to behave in ways you’ve not seen…

Gathering Evidence Of Conflict With A Manipulative Ex

George Hibbert

gather evidence, Abuse, coercive control, contact, contact for fathers, DAPP, divorce, domestic abuse, false allegations, Family Court, gaslighting, Keeping records, narcissistic, parental alienation

The problems caused by a manipulative ex Conflict with an ex is always painful and especially so if you’re fighting over children, but with a manipulative ex it can get…

The 10 Reasons To Gather Evidence Yourself

George Hibbert

evidence, crime, cyberstalking, domestic abuse, Family Court, gaslighting, gather evidence, harassment, how to give evidence, Keeping records, Litigants in Person, parental alienation

The 5 reasons people give for not gathering evidence themselves “It’s tedious and boring.” “Things will sort themselves out anyway so why bother?” “I can just tell my story when…

The resources CAFCASS use to assess harmful conflict

Jill Canvin

CAFCASS, child protection, contact, domestic abuse, Family Court, gaslighting, Litigants in Person, parental alienation, unreasonable behaviour

If your case involves ‘harmful conflict’, the links in this blog show you exactly how CAFCASS will assess you and your family relationships. FCAs are expected to follow these processes although they do have discretion in how they conduct their assessments.

Domestic abuse: How ONRECORD helps you prove it and how CAFCASS assess it

Jill Canvin

CAFCASS, Abuse, bully, bullying, child protection, coercive control, contact, divorce, domestic abuse, Family Court, gaslighting, Litigants in Person, narcissistic, parental alienation, unreasonable behaviour

Use ONRECORD to prove domestic abuse How ONRECORD helps you gather evidence proving domestic abuse and how to understand CAFCASS domestic abuse assessments. Domestic abuse almost invariably occurs in private, so…

CAFCASS Assessments: Parental Alienation

Jill Canvin

parental alienation, Abuse, Borderline Personality Disorder, CAFCASS, child protection, coercive control, contact, divorce, domestic abuse, false allegations, Family Court, gaslighting, Litigants in Person, narcissistic

As part of their Child Impact Assessment Framework (CIAF), CAFCASS have guidance on how to assess families and how they work with children where there is parental alienation.

The links in this blog will show you exactly what the Family Court Adviser (FCA) will use to assess or analyse your family and you can see exactly what CAFCASS thinks is useful. FCAs are expected to follow these processes although they do have discretion in how they conduct their assessments.

How do I know if I’m being manipulated?

Jill Canvin

Abuse, bully, bullying, coercive control, domestic abuse, gaslighting, narcissistic, unreasonable behaviour

Manipulation is controlling someone or something to your own advantage, often unfairly or dishonestly. It’s an emotionally unhealthy strategy used by people who are incapable of asking for what they want and need in a direct way. Someone who tries to manipulate you is trying to control you. Manipulative behaviour involves the three key features of fear, obligation and guilt. So, if you feel guilty or under pressure due to a sense of obligation towards someone and fearful of failing them, take heed, it might be that you’re being manipulated.